Featured Blogger: L Smith When text messaging first hit the scene, I like everyone else was obsessed. I was the T9 queen, I knew the text lingo, I could even text without looking. Fast-forward to 2017 and for some reason I find myself losing interest in text conversations so easily….
Featured Blogger: Christina Voors It becomes a routine. You swipe left, swipe right, and acquire your matches. Now is the time you are supposed to get to know these potential partners, right? Unfortunately, far too often these matches are left in a deserted pile of unfulfilled communication. Perhaps it was due to a simple text killer, such as ‘k’ or ‘cool’, that ended the entire conversation. Maybe it was simply due to disinterest in the conversation at hand. No matter what the cause, it made me wonder: how many of these failed connections could have been really great in person? Who have we missed out on because we didn’t have the chance to get to know the person on the other side of the screen? Well, it’s time we discuss some tips and tricks on how to best ensure that you don’t lose out on some great opportunities: Ask open-ended questions: If it can be answered with a simple ‘yes’ or ‘no’, rephrase to encourage longer answers. For example, instead of asking ‘do you like your job’, rephrase into ‘how do you like your job’. Simple changes can bring forward a much more engaging conversation. Share music: It is amazing how much conversation can be opened up by sharing music you enjoy. It brings a deeper level of communication, discussing how the songs did or didn’t resonate with you and why. Go off the beaten path: Some matches will have an influx of messages, all more-or-less the same. These become easy messages to ignore, as they feel redundant to the person that would be responding. Instead of the standard ‘how is your day going’, bring up something more original. Even better, integrate something from their bio to show you care, such as ‘I see you enjoy hiking, have you been on the local trail here?’ If texting, check your spelling: Easily spotted spelling and grammar errors are less likely to get a response, especially when there is usually spell-check providing you with that red underline! Utilize video: Video allows you to get to know someone in a three-dimensional way. Immediately, you will get an idea of their personality and how you two flow in an environment more similar to real-life. Don’t stall or flake on the conversation: The conversation can only continue if both people contribute. If you have an interest in getting to know this person a bit better, don’t leave them hanging for days on end. Life gets busy, I get it, but that’s true for all of us. We all have to make the effort to some degree. Fortunately, Chekmate makes this easier for us. By using video, we are instantly engaging in real conversations with our matches, getting a gauge for who …
Featured Guest Blogger: Darlene Aniebonam Commitment. A simple word with such a complex meaning. I thought about it today and what it has meant to me in the past, and what it means right now. Being committed to someone means joining forces and becoming a unit. What you think and what…
Featured Blogger: Christina Voors Mobile dating apps can truly be a carefree form of fun. You simply swipe through people in your town, determine if you think you will click, and possibly pursue a longer relationship. As our society evolves alongside technology, we see increased rates of this behavior. In…
Featured Blogger: Amina Grace No one is above dating apps. Even having multiple apps is okay, it is after all a numbers game. But which apps are worth it? Here are 4 things to look for in a dating app. Security Dating apps should be a comfortable space to talk…
Featured Blogger: Christina Voors First date spots can go one of three ways: it can be fine, uncomfortable, or never seen. Yes, never seen can happen. I’ve had a few of those, where I’m talking to someone on a dating app that I’m starting to feel comfortable with. Then he…
Featured Blogger: Amina Grace One of the greatest fears when it comes to online dating is being catfished. Whether it’s a man pretending to be a woman, a fake identity with fake photos, or someone just stringing an innocent victim along, we’ve all heard the horror stories or have seen…
Featured Blogger: Christina Voors Many of us have people in our lives that we have such great connections with, but never see that transfer into the digital realm. They may be one of the closest people to us, but they just “suck at texting”. Similarly, the opposite is true….
Featured Blogger: Amina Grace Have previous dating apps depleted your hopes to build genuine connections in the modern dating world? Have you swiped your way straight to single with no clue as to what you’re doing wrong? Chekmate is designed to not waste your time and takes your dating life…
You’ve probably heard of them, if you haven’t experienced one for yourself. Catfish, a form of deceit used to ensnare victims into a romantic connection under a false guise. They come in all shapes and sizes. From fake photos, fake biographies, and even fake social networks, these people use…
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